Okay, please tell me I'm not the only one

Dylan Parry wrote:
 > Fat Sam wrote:
 >
  >> Does anybody else get this feeling of paranoia before starting a new job?
 >
 >
 > Yes, it's perfectly normal! I always start thinking things like that
 > when we take on a contract that requires I learn a new skill too.
 >
I thought it was probably just perfectly normal paranoia, LOL....Still
doesn't stop it eating away at my gut though....
Having said that, and given the gargantuan size of my gut, it could
probably do with having something eat away at it, LOL...

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Fat Sam wrote:

 > Does anybody else get this feeling of paranoia before starting a new
 > job?....

Yes. Too often, when I hear a project description the first time I have the
feeling that I have no clue what the other is talking about. I learned to
just go with the flow, in the end all will be clear. Yet, I often still
have that weird sensation in the beginning.

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"Fat Sam" <janetandsam DeleteThis @beeteeinternet.co.uk> wrote in message
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 > I've just had an interview for a relatively highly paid job as a web
 > developer (part of a 15 strong team) for a very high traffic finance
 > site...Doing more backend stuff with ASP rather than front end
 > designing....
 >
 > I've had a call today asking me to go back for a second interview, to meet
 > the rest of the web-team to assess how well I get along with them....
 > From what I've heard, it sounds more like a formality than an
 > interview....A "meet your workmates" session....
 >
 > However, I'm now starting to question my ability to do the job in
 > question....
 > I'm starting to think that I'll be asked to start work, and on my first
 > morning, I'll be exposed as a great big fraud who managed to talk a good
 > interview, but who's really in completely out of his depth....
 >
 > I know this isn't true, but I still can't help panicking about it....And
 > I've never really felt this way before starting a new job in the past....
 >
 > Does anybody else get this feeling of paranoia before starting a new
 > job?....
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I think your feelings are perfectly normal (or if they aren't "normal" at
least we both share the same feelings about starting a new job so you are
not alone).

Second interviews are often a formality, but not always. I've worked places
where the MD liked to see all candidates before hiring - never knew him to
reject anyone but he always had the privilege to do so. Its always possible
that they may have drawn up a shortlist so you might be up against someone
else or they might have a few (minor) things that they want to resolve
before hiring you.

Hope it goes well for you.

regards,

Brian.

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Fat Sam wrote

 > Does anybody else get this feeling of paranoia before starting a new
 > job?....

Yes. I think it's natural. Unless you lied to them (knowing you, I know
this is not the case) then they have recruited you based on what you have
told them. If they were not happy with it, they would not recruit you.

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Fat Sam wrote:
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Thanks for all the replies guys....Deep down, I knew i was being
needlessly paranoid, but I suppose I just needed to hear it from someone
other than my own subconscious....LOL....

Believe it or not, I actually feel a whole lot better after all your
replies....

Cheers....I'll raise a celebratory pint to you all tonight....


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On Thu, 05 May 2005 10:49:56 +0100, Brian Cryer
<brianc.TakeThisOut@127.0.0.1.activesol.co.uk> wrote:

 > ...
 > Hope it goes well for you.

seconded

btw: I'm glad you popped in here. Just wanted to say thanks for
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"William Tasso" <SpamBlocked DeleteThis @tbdata.com> wrote in message
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 > On Thu, 05 May 2005 10:49:56 +0100, Brian Cryer
 > <brianc DeleteThis @127.0.0.1.activesol.co.uk> wrote:
 >
  >> ...
  >> Hope it goes well for you.
 >
 > seconded
 >
 > btw: I'm glad you popped in here. Just wanted to say thanks for
 > <a style='text-decoration: underline;' href="http://www.cryer.co.uk/brian/sqlserver/howtoreplication.htm" target="_blank">http://www.cryer.co.uk/brian/sqlserver/howtoreplication.htm</a> - nice work.
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Fat Sam wrote:
 > I've just had an interview for a relatively highly paid job as a web
 > developer (part of a 15 strong team) for a very high traffic finance
 > site...Doing more backend stuff with ASP rather than front end
 > designing....
 >
 > I've had a call today asking me to go back for a second interview, to
 > meet the rest of the web-team to assess how well I get along with them....
 > From what I've heard, it sounds more like a formality than an
 > interview....A "meet your workmates" session....
 >
 > However, I'm now starting to question my ability to do the job in
 > question....
 > I'm starting to think that I'll be asked to start work, and on my first
 > morning, I'll be exposed as a great big fraud who managed to talk a good
 > interview, but who's really in completely out of his depth....
 >
 > I know this isn't true, but I still can't help panicking about it....And
 > I've never really felt this way before starting a new job in the past....
 >
 > Does anybody else get this feeling of paranoia before starting a new
 > job?....
 >

You only have a problem if you really are a big fraud!

I've seen your websites. While I (obviously) can't look at the code,
I've see what you do with it. You're good, no doubt about it. And you
have no need to worry.

Your jitters are perfectly normal. It's a big step, and you're afraid
you'll fail. Didn't you feel the same way when you designed your first
site for a real customer? And if I were in your shoes, I'd be more
worried if I wasn't scared.

If it's a good company, they'll start you off slowly, getting a feel for
you and your work while you're getting comfortable with them.

Also, look at the down side. If it doesn't work out, you'll be right
back where you are right now. You won't be homeless, you won't be dead,
and your camel won't bite you. The job is great - but is where you are
now all that bad?

Go for it! Make your jitters work for you - they help keep you alert!

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Fat Sam <janetandsam RemoveThis @beeteeinternet.co.uk> wrote in
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 > I've just had an interview

OK, stop right there. you have submitted yourself to a dehumanizing
experience and....

 >for a relatively highly paid job

oh God, i was afraid of this....i smell trouble...

 > as a web
 > developer (part of a 15 strong team)

OK, right there, if you aren't the boss, you are cooked.

 > for a very high traffic finance
 > site...

AAAAAAAUUUUUUGH! i knew it! i just knew it! what am i, a shark? i can
smell blood in these waters! mmmmmmmm....tasty blood! yumyumyumyumyumyum.

 > Doing more backend stuff with ASP rather than front end
 > designing....
 >

AAAAAAAUUUUUUGH! i knew it! i just knew it! what am i, a shark? i can
smell blood in these waters! mmmmmmmm....tasty blood! yumyumyumyumyumyum.

 > I've had a call today asking me to go back for a second interview,

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 >to
 > meet the rest of the web-team

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 >to assess how well I get along with
 > them....

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 > From what I've heard, it sounds more like a formality than an
 > interview....A "meet your workmates"

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 > session....

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 >
 > However, I'm now starting to question my ability to do the job in
 > question....

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Fat Sam wrote:

 > Does anybody else get this feeling of paranoia before starting a new
 > job?....

I've done what I do for 28 years, and I still get butterflies before
some new gigs.

You'll do fine. Just get the job.

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Charles Sweeney me RemoveThis @charlessweeney.com wrote in
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 > Fat Sam wrote
 >
  > > Does anybody else get this feeling of paranoia before starting a new
  > > job?....
 >
 > Yes. I think it's natural. Unless you lied to them (knowing you, I know
 > this is not the case) then they have recruited you based on what you have
 > told them. If they were not happy with it, they would not recruit you.
 >

Precisely. Your job is to describe yourself well at the interview. It's up
to them to decide you can do the job. Once they've done so you have to
assume that unless you told some blatant porkies (which they'd probably
have spotted) you are the best they could get.

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